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Rachel Scola's avatar

proud of you for sharing this! and wow great reminder on Carrie's age for SATC? your 30s will be the best yet!!

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thank you, Rachel!! Yes to enjoying our 30s!

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mindy isser's avatar

sending you lots of love!!!! wanting different things is a very important and correct reason to break up. that’s what happened with me with my BF of 7 years, now i’m married with a kid (what i wanted, he didn’t). hoping for the best for you!!!

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Okay this comment is so life affirming, thank you, Mindy!! 🙏

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Sumeet Shah's avatar

Cats always make everything better. The Cat Distribution System will work its magic sooner than you think.

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

So excited for my future cat!

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Sumeet Shah's avatar

Ditto. Boombox is excited for you!

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Leah Wiseman Fink's avatar

Sending you a huge hug, Abigail. And will send a williamsburg pizza to your newly-saged apartment as soon as you move back in. xoxoxo

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

You’re the best! Pizza always helps!

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Katie Hawkins-Gaar's avatar

Sending you a big hug. I became a widow at 31 and a SATC rewatch was one of the many ways I got through that time. That was 2017 — when you started this newsletter! So so much has changed since then. I can’t wait to see what’s ahead for you and what you’ll discover ❤️

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Katie, thank you! The only constant is change and at least we have SATC to see us through! Sending hugs!

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Jenn Bollenbacher's avatar

Proud of you!! I fully support the cat plan. More than 14 years ago I adopted my cat Lola after a breakup of my own & she’s been by my side ever since, through new jobs & relationships & moves across the country. They’re truly the best little companions ♥️

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

That’s so sweet, Jenn! Glad she’s been with you for all those chapters!

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Em Ogden's avatar

Sending you hugs right now. I pretty much dropped off of substack due to emotional life things, and am just now venturing back out... so I can relate. Here's to all sorts of hope for the new chapter you're starting.

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Sending you hugs, I hope you’re doing alright! It’s been a time!

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Sharon Corell's avatar

I am so proud of you for sharing this with all of your readers. While I am sure this was extremely difficult to write, I hope that it was also a bit therapeutic. Please relax and regroup on your trip and come back knowing that a new and exciting life awaits you in NY. You are strong, young and resilient and will make it thru this and be better off on the other side. Love you so much!

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Love you!!

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Chrissy Hennessey's avatar

Transitions are hard, but I know you'll emerge with an even bigger and more beautiful life. We always do! Sending you good thoughts and hopes for many excellent snacks to help you through this time. 💛

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thanks so much, Chrissy!

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Suzanna Simpson's avatar

Sending you all the hugs and support you need. I was 32 when I got divorced and even though it was somewhat amicable, it was still hard and so very painful. Please give yourself grace, embrace the opportunity to get to know yourself a little better, and lean on the support of friends. You have an amazing community. The best piece of advice I have ever received about grief is the reminder that it is not linear (despite how the "stages of grief" are designed to make us feel), it is a spiral and some days will definitely be harder than others. Love yourself through them all.

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

This is great advice, I can already relate to the ups and downs, it comes at you fast! Thank you, Suzanna!

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Francesca Krihely-Price's avatar

💜💜sending you a big big hug. Breakups are horrible in the moment but SO great in retrospect. Give yourself the grace to be a sad girl now knowing you’re strong in ur sadness and will be a stronger girl when you’re ready!

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thank you! In the sad girl to thrive pipeline!

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Madison Knabe's avatar

There’s something so melancholy about giving a relationship your all and having it not work out. It is painful but there is so much beauty in starting your new life chapter. Sending so much love!

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

You get it! Thank you 💗

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Gillian Longworth McGuire's avatar

Sending you a big hug from here. Brava for knowing what you need. That is no small thing.

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thank you so much, Gillian! Means a lot!

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

So, so sorry to hear this, Abigail! Sending you good vibes and good thoughts -- if it helps, I've been there too. Really glad you have the good friends you mention, and it sounds like they're giving you some great support. I know this time is really hard, but wishing you all the best ❤️

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thanks so much, Terrell!

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Julia @smarterinasec's avatar

Sending you love! ❤️❤️❤️ I hope you have the best time in LA.

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thank you, Julia!!

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Chloe Cullen's avatar

How beautifully written, even through the heart break. And what a wonderful community and series of meals to center it all! Excited for your next chapter

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Abigail Koffler's avatar

Thanks so much!!

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